Mission:Satisfaction FAILED
Then again, it must be those feelings that keep creeping into me whenever my closest friends leave to foreign countries, whether migrating or furthering studies, thus having those funniest fun moments left only as fragments in my memory chamber. *bleagh* I’m leaving too! June 7th at 7.30pm. SEVEN-THIRTY in the evening?! Somehow, I’ve got this feeling that my departure ain’t gonna be so grand like Rain’s or Peter’s or Christ’s or KY’s… first of all, most of my friends have already left M’sia. Worse, flight’s at some odd time. Godfather’s working for sure, my baby boys over in MMU have began their new trimester, and now that I know Chia Yee and Co. have the CRAZIEST timetable for their new sem, I doubt anyone else besides my dear family members and (probably Ade) would come, wave their hands and say how much they’re gonna miss me when I ain’t around as I go down the escalator towards the gates. Bitterness.
“Woman, stop being dramatic now.”
Earlier, I wanted to continue the previous post with my girly chat, but I think it was too long for a read. So I’m back here to continue what I’ve left.
Having to get into the topic already, one of our girlfriends who has a particularly conservative background said, “I think no one will know how good sex is until after marriage”. Anyway, the summarised transcript went about like this…
N: Nah! u think everyone’s that “pure” as u? Still thinking it’s a scum to have sex before marriage?
EE: ay, I think many parents can accept if their child had sex, then get married, even though some may not excourage this practice thoroughly.
SL: Huh? I know… but don’t get “too deep”. Just surface.
K n EE: too deep? (blankness; look left and up on the ceiling)
SL: erm… yea… just… (see? her conserved shyness) control la… don’t.. er.. or… erm… don’t get to the bottom la!! (then went covering her face)
K: ha? u mean… it’s ok to expose the chest and breasts, n then get all high n all… n thatsit? just right there? You WILL do that? and u think the guy will ALSO agree to stop there?
SL: YA LA!
N: what?! Then might as well don’t even start.
EE: yea lo! walau! Potong stim la! (potong stim=stimulation breakage)
Stage 1: Face-2-face contact, smooching and all
Stage 2: Fondling + displacement of clothes with bare hands.
Stage 3: Total bareness (SL subdivided this to top-bareness and bottom-bareness)
Stage 4: Creating depth (aka total engagement or penetration)
While most of us conceptualized having sex is like an all-or-nothing kinda action, SL shared her opinion that if we’d “suddenly” don’t feel like it, then it’s ok to stop at ANY stages.
EE: n u think that the guy will be sooooo ok when u just go “OKAY! we’re at stage 3! that’s enough!”
SL: erm… yea? then… if we did it, what if I regret?
K: ha?! so u think u’ll regret AFTER u do him? n u didn’t think that the guy might regret that u n he had even started it BEFORE? Then for goodness sake, if u even have this kinda thoughts, don’t even get to stage 2, alright?!
We put every possible sentences in any possible scenario (use your imaginations ok?) and it was hillarious. Really, since this was the girlfriends’ chat, we are in the feminist point of view. While some of us do think that there may be an awkward aura or an oddity protracting in the atmosphere by stopping at any stage (especially at stage3 at any sub?!?! funny…), there are girls like SL who probably think the guys do not mind at all if the girls would have just “terminate the mission”.
This is one issue that will always get into the subject of intimacy between pairs. Questions like “how far will u take your relationship?”, “will u do this for him/her?”, “so long still haven’t ar? walauweh…”, etc., etc. will occasionally challenge the state of mind of the couples and make them wonder about the journey with their other halves.
By the way, I have got a reply for the issue on the bummer case. Wa, talk about the customer service in M’sia. *giggles* Check this out!
